It Must be True Love...

I've heard this song at least a dozen times on my bosses play list at work but I've never really listened to it until this morning on my ride in.  (I've listed the lyrics below and posted the video, just in case you haven't heard and really listened to it either!)  At first, I thought it was just another fun song to sing along to and help pass the time but as I was singing along I realized how close to home this one really hits, and it got me thinking, can this really be true love?

Have you ever told your husband you hate him?  I have!  Many times!  Practically, on a daily basis.  I say it playfully for the most part but there have been a few times that I've really just hated him.  Which reminds me of when I was a kid and I would tell my mom that I hated her.  Her response?  "That's ok, I don't like you very much right now either, but I'll never stop loving you."  Mind blown!  Who knew mom's were so insightful?!  Can you really love and hate someone at the same time?

At the same time, I wanna hug you
I wanna wrap my hands around your neck
You're an asshole but I love you

Possibly the most honest and absolutely correct words that I have to describe how I feel about Jim from time to time.  He's just such a complete asshole but at the same time, I love him and I know life would suck without him.  How can we love someone so much that we want to harm them, but then pull them back in and need them so badly?  The mind and the heart are completely baffling to me. 

And you make me so mad I ask myself
Why I'm still here, or where could I go
You're the only love I've ever known
But I hate you, I really hate you,
So much, I think it must be
True love, true love

 Clearly, Pink gets it.  And I'm glad she does, because I honestly feel like this at least several times a week and it's always worried me that maybe something was wrong.  Maybe I shouldn't be with Jim?  But then who would I be with?  How would I be able to put him behind me?  His friends are my friends.  His family is my family.  Our lives are completely connected.  Now of course, people move on from that, look at people who are married for years and years then break up, the get back up and move on without their spouse, so it would be possible for me to do it to, but I really would never want to.  I hate him so much that this must be true love.  Funny.  Weird.  But true.  Thanks, Pink!  You saved me from a life time of worrying that I was dragging out the inevitable and worrying that I'm a nut for staying with a man that I hate, some of the time.  I guess if I felt like that constantly it would be different, but as soon as the hatred hits, it dissipates and I'm back to wanting him with me every step of the way as I stumble thru this mess of a life that we've created.  I wouldn't want anyone besides him by my side and I'm lucky he feels the same way about me.

Sometimes I hate every single stupid word you say
Sometimes I wanna slap you in your whole face
There's no one quite like you
You push all my buttons down
I know life would suck without you

At the same time, I wanna hug you
I wanna wrap my hands around your neck
You're an asshole but I love you
And you make me so mad I ask myself
Why I'm still here, or where could I go
You're the only love I've ever known
But I hate you, I really hate you,
So much, I think it must be

True love, true love
It must be true love
Nothing else can break my heart like
True love, true love,
It must be true love
No one else can break my heart like you

Just once try to wrap your little brain around my feelings
Just once please try not to be so mean
Repeat after me now R-O-M-A-N-C-E-E-E
Come on I'll say it slowly (Romance)
You can do it baby

At the same time, I wanna hug you
I wanna wrap my hands around your neck
You're an asshole but I love you
And you make me so mad I ask myself
Why I'm still here, or where could I go
You're the only love I've ever known
But I hate you, I really hate you,
So much, I think it must be

True love, true love
It must be true love
Nothing else can break my heart like
True love, true love,
It must be true love
No one else can break my heart like you

I think it must be love

Why do you rub me up the wrong way?
Why do you say the things that you say?
Sometimes I wonder how we ever came to be
But without you I'm incomplete

I think it must be
True love, true love
It must be true love
Nothing else can break my heart like
True love, true love,
It must be true love
No one else can break my heart like you (like you)
No one else can break my heart like you (like you)
No one else can break my heart like you